Table of Contents & Sample Extract from the Book

Here is the Table of Contents listing the chapters along with an extract from the book.

Filipina 202 – How To Marry And Migrate Your Filipina!

Part One – Marriage	4
Don’t Do it! Only Kidding!	4
Buwad, Bagoong & Brady Bunches	12
Are you Older than her Lola?	22
How Many Filipino’s Did You Just Marry?	28
Her Place Or Yours	37
Formal or Free for all?	42
Wed, Fed and Off To Bed In 45 Minutes!	49
What is Required?	59
Part Two – Migrating	61
The Paper Chase!	61
The Price Of Happiness Ever After!	64
Australia Overview	66
USA Overview	70
UK Overview	72
Canada Overview	73
New Zealand Overview	74
EU Overview	75
Nuns From Hell	76
So Long Farewell, Sige Bye!	78
Flying High	79
Part Three – Settling In	80
We’ve only just begun!	81
Westernizing-Good or bad?	82
Part Four – Helpful Information	89
US IMMIGRATION INFORMATION	89
BRITISH IMMIGRATION INFORMATION	95
CANADIAN IMMIGRATION INFORMATION	101
COMMISSION ON FILIPINOS OVERSEAS INFORMATION	105
OBTAINING HER PASSPORT	106
OBTAINING HER ORIGINAL BIRTH CERTIFICATE	110
CFO CERTIFICATE	111
APPLICATION FOR MARRIAGE LICENSE	112
CENOMAR	113
REGISTRAR BIRTH CERTIFICATE	114
NOTE ON DOCUMENTS	115
HELPFUL WEB SITES	115
A FEW LAST WORDS	116
ABOUT THE AUTHOR	117

Don’t Do it! Only Kidding!

Given that most men who marry Filipinas are doing it (the marriage thing) for at least the second time, it begs the question why? Surely they learnt their lesson the first time? Genetically man is not predisposed towards monogamy. We are designed to spread our seed as far and as wide as we can. Women, on the other hand, need a strong male to give them the best offspring and to protect them while they are vulnerable nursing and weaning the infant and so on. They need us, we don’t need them!

So why do we wake up one morning and think “I have to marry her!’ or “I want a wife?” nature has a few tricks up her sleeve and this is one of them. We get lonely. We are programmed from birth that marriage is the norm, that old or middle aged bachelors and spinsters are miserable and somehow deviant. None of which is true but we fall for it and we get married.

Modern society has most western marriages failing within ten years, often sooner. Much sooner in some cases. One in every two marriages will fail, often because of money problems or infidelity. See, man is designed to be unfaithful, can’t help himself chemically or something. Keep in mind the worse crime a man married to a Filipina can commit is adultery. You can lose bits of you for that!

More marriages between Filipinas and foreigners succeed for several reasons. I think the nature of the Filipina has a lot to do with it, far more than any cultural norm that marriage is for life because they are catholic or because divorce is non-existent in the Philippines. You can get a marriage annulled, it just takes longer and costs money but it happens every day of the week bar Sundays!

Another major factor few might acknowledge is the socio-economic factor. Western man needs wife, Filipina needs man who can provide a secure and decent living for her and her offspring. (if she hasn’t already got offspring, she will expect you to provide her with some! More on this vital issue later). You will find few average foreigners married to Filipinas of A or B class. (A are the super wealthy, B are the rich, C are the middle class and D and E are the poor and the destitute) You will find many C and D class Filipinas married to foreigner husbands.

These ladies have access to the means of communication with foreign men necessary for he to meet she. Internet, postal service, relatives who have migrated overseas can all be methods of introduction that few of the poor and very poor will have access to. The very rich have no need to improve their economic situation and marry amongst their own. If they do marry a foreigner, he is usually wealthy in his own right.

Make no mistake, the main reason Filipinas look to the west for husbands, in my opinion and that of my wife and many other Filipinas I have spoken with, is that they believe a western man can provide them with a far better life than a Filipino man can. Without the common habits of Filipino men being taken into consideration such as drinking with his Barkada or group of close friends and gambling on cock fights, it is difficult for the more marriage minded Filipino to compete due to the differing standards of salaries and employment between foreigner and Filipino.

There are many fine Filipino men who are devoted to their wives and families regardless of their earning capacity but there are also many more who are unreliable and lazy, wiling to let the wife earn the daily bread, bring up the children and keep him in Tanduay and Hope (local rum and cigarettes) while he chats up other local Filipinas! It is a phenomenon familiar in many former Spanish colonies.

So she sees the foreigner as offering a better chance for her future than what the local lad can offer. Luckily there are more than enough Filipina to go around, the Filipino doesn’t seem to be jealous of our taking their women away, perhaps they figure they will get the remittance and kick back and enjoy life!

What does the foreigner look for in a Filipina? For many it is the lust! The sex! The fact some sexy slim thing half his age wants to have sex with him! So why not marry her and make it a permanent arrangement and he will have her forever? Of course any marriage, at any stage of life with any woman from any country is doomed to failure if lust is the only thread that holds the relationship together. Sadly, the real reason we in the west often marry when we are in our early twenties is because of lust. We think it is love but if it were truly love why does it not hold up to the rigours of everyday life?

Even today in Asia, marrying for love is not as widespread as it is in the west and it has only been the main reason for marriage for the past two hundred years or so. Before that, the birth of the so called “Romantic Period”, men and women formed unions that were designed to improve the breed and further the family fortunes on both sides. This is why marriages were arranged by wiser and older people than the two young participants. Marriage was too important an action to leave to the whims and whimsy of the young! Besides, many a “woman” was married off at 14 to a man much more her senior because it was known she was what he needed in the cot and he was better placed to support her and her children.

While the age of consent may have increased, the age gap hasn’t with many couples twenty or thirty years apart or more and finding wedded bliss. She gives him what he needs and he is able to provide her with what she needs. Plus he is less likely to roam!

While there may be a façade of modesty in place, Filipinas are no different to any other woman, they enjoy sex! They don’t want the world to know about it, or that they are doing it or with whom but I have not met one yet who doesn’t enjoy a good roll in the hay. I fact, most Filipinas complain how little sex they get from their husbands after marriage. Before marriage, it really is only a question of opportunity, i.e.; time and place and it will happen. If you get one of the super conservative, neo-religious gals who insist on waiting for the wedding night, its up to you whether you stay or play. I would be wary as my experience over 18 years is that she has a Filipino boyfriend and she is merely scamming you, stringing you along etc. UNLESS you met her by introduction through a mutual friend or colleague and perhaps within your Church. Then the odds are it is real and you would be well advised to respect her wishes!

Many men marry bargirls, prostitutes, GRO’s, call girls, hookers, paid companions, whatever you wish to label them. The chances of her being on the scam are increased, but not always and no more than many “straight” Filipinas really. The saying you can take the Filipina out of the bar but you can’t take the bar out of the Filipina holds water. However they are naturally sexy, even my six year old dances like a lap dancer from Vegas! They can’t help it, they are Filipina and it is one of the reasons we love them!

I had the pleasure of being a judge at a beauty contest were the contestants vied for my vote with the raunchiest, sexiest dance routines, including pouring beer and water over their skimpy outfits and grinding against me and, and……sorry, carried away! Anyway, the asawa was there and not too happy about these 16 to 21 year old College girls, yes College girls all from good families, gyrating and dirty dancing all over her husband! I did the best I could to defend myself but it was a losing battle! Anyone watching a video would swear these girls were hookers and lap dancing professionals. No, just average teenage Filipinas. Filipinas I could have asked out, gone to bed with and eventually married if not already spoken for and well in love with my wife! So don’t sweat the virginity thing too much!

With the ground rules in place, many couples then develop genuine and wonderful marriages, bring up children and have a great life. Some fall apart as she gets westernized or he turns nasty but in the main Fil-Am (for want of a generic term, meaning Filipina-American but take it to mean Filipina-foreigner marriages) marriages last.

So why are you asking her to marry you? Is it your decision, your free choice or do you feel pressured into doing so? Did she share her “gifts” with you and you are now made to believe if you don’t marry her, her life will be over? That can be the case for some but not usually. If that were the case there would be a lot of orphaned children in the Philippines rather than countless millions of single parent families! People of all races are far more pragmatic than they might wish to let on, so don’t let the lost virginity scam sentence you to a life of penal servitude within the institution of marriage! It happens, not very often, but I have heard of shotgun marriages with real shotguns!

Do you want to marry her and share the rest of your life (and wealth) with her or are you just horny? I’m asking the rude, in your face questions here because for the vast majority of Filipinas, marriage is FOR LIFE and they are GENUINE about their love for you. Taking advantage of a poor young woman who hasn’t the leverage you bring to the relationship in the form of income and education and perhaps life experience and maturity, is a pathetic act.

Just as pathetic is marrying someone thinking you are some kind of knight in shining armour. What happens when she stops being so grateful for you changing her life and simply wants to get on and enjoy the life you have given her? Will you drop her and go look for another Princess in the Rough to save?

We often discuss her motives and her taking advantage of your largesse, scamming you and putting her family first with your money but: be honest with yourself as to what your true motives are before you pop the question. The Committee on Filipinos Overseas was formed to protect the interests of Filipinos outside the protection of their government because too many were falling afoul of cruel employers and nasty spouses. I personally believe they lost the plot when they handed the seminar presentation process over to Nuns, but the original intention was genuine and well meant.

Filipinas have been murdered by their foreigner husbands and fiancés. They have been held as virtual sex slaves, imprisoned, beaten, tortured, raped and treated vilely. On the other side of the coin, many foreigner men have been killed, tortured, robbed and humiliated by Filipina wives from hell who either intended all along to clean out their foreigner husband or fell in with the wrong crowd of Filipina or western women once they migrated. It has happened to both sides and it will continue to happen, but lets not let it happen to you! I am presuming anyone interested enough to invest in this book isn’t the type to harm their dream Filipina!

This book will deal with the processes you have to go through to get her to the altar, then to get her home and finally to help her enjoy it and stay there! It is a major life move for both of you, not to be taken lightly. It is something that can’t be shrugged off as minor or inconsequential once begun. And you are the one who begun it, never forget that! You sought out a Filipina to call your own, you traveled to the Philippines to meet her, you are the one who pops the question and you will be the one to facilitate her migration. (Unless you migrate to the Philippines, which we also cover!)

The mark of an adult is their ability to make a decision, take action and to accept the consequences of that action and to accept the responsibility or blame for the action and any consequences. If you can’t do all of that, you are not an adult, no matter how many candles on your birthday cake. And if you are not an adult, what are you doing playing grown up’s games? Think about that before you read the next chapter!

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